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Promiscuity...what does it mean?

For my review of the play, "Amrita", directed by the noted film-maker, M S Sathyu,

click here

Watching this play, and doing the reading required before and after watching, I fell to musing. Today, I'd say Amrita Pritam was a woman not bound by "middle-class morality". But by that standard of middle-class morality, a not-too-pleasant adverb would have been used to describe her: promiscuous.

What IS promiscuity? is the question that now makes me think. To my mind....promiscuity is the rapid changing of sexual, and possibly emotional, partners...with no discrimination. In fact, I think emotional promiscuity must be even more usettling for the partners in a relationship, than sexual promiscuity...the "one-night stand" is a well-documented feature of sexual relations between human beings...but an emotional relationship is usually invested with the notion of at least some length of time...so a partner who quickly changes hes affections can be a difficult person to deal with.

Even by this reckoning, I don't find Amrita Pritam promiscuous. Her relationships...with her husband, that did not work within the marital framework, with her lover, Sahir Ludhianvi, and later, her long-standing partnership with Imroze....speak of a deep involvement of the mind and heart, not a passing romantic whim. Friendship, and literary efforts, seem to have been the backbone of her two extra-marital relationships.

However...in Indian society, a woman who leaves her husband, has an affair with another man, and then lives with a third...would certainly be branded promiscuous, and attract the censure and disgust of the average "middle-class" person. And yet...so often, I find these same members of the middle-class being very forgiving towards those with the creative temperament, who lead unconventional lives..."When Saraswathi bestows the creative urge on a man or woman," said a very staid old aunt of mine, "She also bestows some 'quirks'." Quirks, presumably, meaning a disregard of the social conventions! Several movie actors have had a succession of wives and "consorts", and they were not less the objects of public adulation for all that variety..in fact, there is often a sneaking admiration for the Lotharios of the film world!

So...my conclusion is, if I, as a Tambram housewife, take a succession of lovers, it will be promiscuity...but if I am a film star or a celebrity...then a lot of "moral lapses" are overlooked by the Mango Public (Aam Janta)! Double standards are alive and well and kicking over the icons of conformity....
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